A great post…and I agree with you. I write about my ‘healing’ journey on Substack…and that’s for exactly the reasons you say here. But I think we need to be aware that trauma (my son took his life) is something which can massively interfere with our healing. So it’s important to tackle that one as the road-block it is.
Absolutely. Step by step, and not jumping ahead. Gosh, I've unintentionally tried to jump ahead so many times in so many ways. Some things just need to unfold the way they need to, and we need to be okay with that...
I LOVEEE this article!!! 😍 You speak so much truth! I've personally come to realize that focusing on healing too much makes me less present in life, and being present in general is something that I have especially been working on fostering for the past few years. It's easy to miss the beauty in our brokenness when we're so determined on putting the pieces back together. I used to obsess more of needing all the answers to "fix" my problems to the point that my mind would just race and nothing I ever did was good enough. I'm still like that at times, but I recognize the behavior and thought patterns now, and that's where coping skills combined with rest and or shifting my energy towards accomplishing a task or connecting with awesome humans or animals helps. Sometimes I want to also just sit in those uncomfortable emotions and thoughts and memories, because that's how I process them and accept them more. Painful things like grief have taught me countless lessons that I am forever grateful for, even if at times it was so intense I wanted to implode. The support I was shown at times when I wanted to said "implode" from being overwhelmed by it all were also some of the most fond and loving memories of immense support from someone I love deeply, or multiple AMAZING people in my life who I love so much and am grateful for every day. I wish the world were different in so many ways, but we can start helping it by helping ourselves - being kinder to ourselves and the place we're in in life and the state of our little world around us. We have the power to affect so much positively just by slowing down, being more present, living more authentically, and not subscribing to that which is shoved onto us by society to find our own way that makes sense to us. Showing up for ourselves with clear needs and boundaries can give us the strength to show up for others in the same healthy manner, escaping the people pleaser mentality that can bog us down and bar us from joy and happiness as the energy we have gets drained from spreading ourselves too thin and doing things that go against our internal inherent nature. I will say it again too, some of the best moments in my life grew from the soil of my struggles and blossomed so gorgeously I will never forget them for as long as I live! I too also love a challenge, so cheers to the joys of overcoming adversity; not that I ask for it, but knowing it's always an inevitable at some point can pump me up to smash through that wall like the Cool-aid Man and be like "Hereeee's Leona!" Okay, I just pictured Jack Nicholson playing the live action Cool-aid Man and that brought me some happiness and a chuckle! 🤣
I love this (and you!)! Truly, some of the best things that have ever happened to me have also been the most painful. But there is beauty to be found in all of that, which we sometimes seem to forget <3
A great post…and I agree with you. I write about my ‘healing’ journey on Substack…and that’s for exactly the reasons you say here. But I think we need to be aware that trauma (my son took his life) is something which can massively interfere with our healing. So it’s important to tackle that one as the road-block it is.
Absolutely. Step by step, and not jumping ahead. Gosh, I've unintentionally tried to jump ahead so many times in so many ways. Some things just need to unfold the way they need to, and we need to be okay with that...
I LOVEEE this article!!! 😍 You speak so much truth! I've personally come to realize that focusing on healing too much makes me less present in life, and being present in general is something that I have especially been working on fostering for the past few years. It's easy to miss the beauty in our brokenness when we're so determined on putting the pieces back together. I used to obsess more of needing all the answers to "fix" my problems to the point that my mind would just race and nothing I ever did was good enough. I'm still like that at times, but I recognize the behavior and thought patterns now, and that's where coping skills combined with rest and or shifting my energy towards accomplishing a task or connecting with awesome humans or animals helps. Sometimes I want to also just sit in those uncomfortable emotions and thoughts and memories, because that's how I process them and accept them more. Painful things like grief have taught me countless lessons that I am forever grateful for, even if at times it was so intense I wanted to implode. The support I was shown at times when I wanted to said "implode" from being overwhelmed by it all were also some of the most fond and loving memories of immense support from someone I love deeply, or multiple AMAZING people in my life who I love so much and am grateful for every day. I wish the world were different in so many ways, but we can start helping it by helping ourselves - being kinder to ourselves and the place we're in in life and the state of our little world around us. We have the power to affect so much positively just by slowing down, being more present, living more authentically, and not subscribing to that which is shoved onto us by society to find our own way that makes sense to us. Showing up for ourselves with clear needs and boundaries can give us the strength to show up for others in the same healthy manner, escaping the people pleaser mentality that can bog us down and bar us from joy and happiness as the energy we have gets drained from spreading ourselves too thin and doing things that go against our internal inherent nature. I will say it again too, some of the best moments in my life grew from the soil of my struggles and blossomed so gorgeously I will never forget them for as long as I live! I too also love a challenge, so cheers to the joys of overcoming adversity; not that I ask for it, but knowing it's always an inevitable at some point can pump me up to smash through that wall like the Cool-aid Man and be like "Hereeee's Leona!" Okay, I just pictured Jack Nicholson playing the live action Cool-aid Man and that brought me some happiness and a chuckle! 🤣
I love this (and you!)! Truly, some of the best things that have ever happened to me have also been the most painful. But there is beauty to be found in all of that, which we sometimes seem to forget <3